Who Are You Now? 5 Questions to Ask Yourself?
This question is constantly relevant. You are not the same person you were 10 years ago, 2 years ago or even last week! Every experience we have, every person we encounter, changes us slightly or sometimes A LOT! So we are being shaped, moulded, taught every day of our lives whether we are in tune with it or not.
As we head into Spring I invite you to spend some time in the sunshine, warming those winter bones and reflecting with these 5 questions...
What has changed for you recently?
Life never stands still. The only constant is change. We can experience big changes in life through things like loss and serious illness or births and moving house. These events we don’t miss, they can’t escape our notice. They change us in profound ways that demand our attention. Then there are the smaller events in our day-to-day living that can slip under the radar, things like meeting someone new, reading a book, changing positions at work or even just a conversation. We don’t often stop and consider how these smaller moments can influence us and our perspectives and adjust our life trajectory just a smidge.
How has that affected your perspective?
Perspective change is one of the most valued learning opportunities you’ll ever get. The old saying, “Don’t judge until you’ve walked a day in their shoes” is so relevant to this conversation. Reflection time that gives you space to review life and all its events will help you to see where you’ve had perspective shifts and how you’ve grown from them.
What do you need to accept to enable you to walk forwards in the direction that is in alignment with you?
Now with your new perspectives, what changes need to be made? Acceptance of a situation, person, belief, allows you to incorporate the changes into your daily life that keep you growing in this life journey.
Feeling in alignment comes when the choices and decisions you make regarding the big and the small in your life are held against your mind and you find logic and a knowing they are right for you, held against your heart and you find lightness and contentment, and held against your soul or gut and you find peace and determination.
Who You Are Now?
Stand in front of the mirror and look yourself in the eye when you ask this question. Sometimes we need to really look at ourselves physically to assess who we are now. You hear older folk say they feel 20 on the inside but the mirror tells a different story which I think is sad that they haven’t engaged, accepted and celebrated all the life that has led to those laugh lines, stretch marks or grey hair. Be present and honest with exactly who you are now, without criticism or comparison, just love and compassion.
Which you, are you creating?
Now it’s time to look forward. Who are you creating? Do you know where you want to grow as a person? Find a role model of someone who represents the stage of life you're heading towards and is living it in a way that is inspiring to you. Remember whenever you are planning, vision boarding and dreaming, keep focused on how you want to feel, not what you think will make you feel that way.
Enjoy the sunshine and your reflection time. When we allow reflection we can then move forward with clear purpose!